When I said the word “consistency”, you probably cringed a little bit inside... The conscious part of your mind knows that you need to “accept” consistency as the elemental part of your success in business and life, but there’s an unspoken uneasiness about the word when it’s brought to your attention. That’s most likely your subconscious mind fighting it out of your head because “consistency” is trying to beat you into shape.
This was my relationship with Consistency before I truly learnt to respect and honour it.
You may be in the same place I was – three years ago, when I chased after every podcast, every self help video, every life guru on Youtube. I subscribed myself to an embarrassing amount of self-improvement and success related channels out there (I can’t even count!). Looking back, I suspect maybe I was drawn to that kind of energy, as if hashtag grit, hashtag daily grind, and hashtag hustle was the only way to go to achieve true consistency.
I wish someone had told me that was wrong, that “hard work” was the wrong hero I was looking for, that there was an easier and more graceful way that leads the path to success no one ever talks about.
My breakthrough happened when I least expected it – and my hope is for you to experience the same epiphany too. Here’s what I realised: How you experience consistency is entirely your choice, it all comes down to what you associate “being consistent” with.
Let me show you the two sides to the same coin. People who tell you that “grit” is the answer, primarily brings your attention to the lack of achievement, which is a self-punishing mentality that leads you to constantly believe that you’re just “not there yet”, and keeps you in a place of dissatisfaction. The flip side to this belief are people who live in the moment and truly savour the process of micro-level growth. They view every step of the progress as an opportunity to celebrate, and associate the experience with an overall warm, fuzzy feeling. Now, when your body is buzzed with all these good feelings, it would be hard not to become addicted to the process. This is where true consistency is born.
Hard work means work that is hard, work that doesn’t come naturally or easily, and work that you need to grind through because you’re not coming from an inspired position to produce it. But does that mean we don’t do the work when we don’t feel like it?
Well, that’s not entirely the case.
So what would consistency without hard work look like? This question bring an entirely new meaning to your work. Instead of focusing on the outcome, you get to focus on the process – and enjoy the experience of gathering all your power to being inspired, motivated, and feeling the next level energy that makes “consistency” easy. When I was in this state, I generated a new sense of curiosity and wonder in my work.
This is why I decided to disengage with the grind. Here’s a personal example. I’ve had my fair share of struggle posting on social media regularly. The idea of being “chained” to my phone was never appealing. However, I see the value of being visible online so that people could reach out to me for my coaching services. So I’ve tried committing myself to posting on social media for 10-15 minutes a day, coming from a place where I loathed the work but knew it just needed to be done. After this process failed me miserably, I then experimented doing the exact same task carrying the opposite attitude – allowing myself to celebrate every post I made, and sharing every message from the heart. Can you guess which one got me the best results?
For the sake of this article, I’d like to see how this all fits in with your life. Tell me, how do you see yourself surrendering into consistency in your work or daily life, and how will that affect the quality of your experience in achieving your goal?