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How to know if you are subconsciously rejecting money

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I come across so many people who turn down money in many ways.You’d think that everyone wants to have access to more money in their lives so that they can have the freedom and time to spend it in the way they want, but the results don’t quite tell the same story.

They come up with all sorts of excuses to pass up their chance, indirectly turning away money and other doors that could have opened up otherwise. When I work with people to find out why they are not making their desired income, they’re dumbfounded when I point out to them they are resisting money in one way or the other.

On the conscious level, we all like the idea of having our wealth easily accessible — but some of us subconsciously reject the idea, hence we unknowingly turn away from the roads that lead us to our desired goals.

Here are the three most common false beliefs that hold people back from attaining more wealth and happiness in their lives. Do any of these speak to you?

Belief #1: Making money is difficult

False! Making money can be easy — at least for you. Since you are reading this post, I’m going to assume you have the privilege to access an infinite sea of knowledge online, just under your fingertips. And if you can follow what I said up until this point, you have sound cognitive abilities to process what I’m about to say, and therefore this applies to you.

How we invest our time, our energy, our abilities is entirely up to us. You can work fourteen hours a day and still make much less than someone who works the same amount of time in a week.

So if you can believe in working that many hours a day just to make a living, why not split that in half and invest the rest of your time creating or looking for opportunities that will get you to the next level?

Belief #2: Making lots of money is only for other people

False! Making lots of money is for anyone, including yourself. A lot of us have an unrealistic perception that being rich means we have to be famous, or live under the spotlight, or have celebrity status. Some of us even go to conclude that they must have eccentric taste and drive a Ferrari.

When we imprint our minds with this image, we disassociate ourselves from the possibilities of getting rich. These impressions indirectly tell us in order to be rich, we have to first fulfill the “prerequisites”, such as having all the external status symbols to be qualified for a wealthy life.

In reality, there are plenty of wealthy people that act and behave like any of us who live under the radar. And we don’t see them in the media because they don’t get picked up by the media, so there is no chance for us to break this false belief.

Once we remove the idea that making lots of money is only for “other” people, we could believe that the person next door is a secret millionaire… or better yet, that person could be you!

Belief #3: I don’t have what it takes to make more money

False! You have everything you need to make more money. We hold on to the illusion that we need more to succeed in this world because telling ourselves that we “don’t have enough” is a perfectly valid excuse for why we are not successful already.

The fact that there is truth to both sides is because of confirmation bias — we only look for evidence that supports the reality that we believe in, simply because that makes us comfortable. Therefore, if you want to convince yourself that you will achieve your desired income goals, start looking for evidence that favors this belief and work your way there.

Change your beliefs, change your life

Our beliefs define the actions we take, and our actions define our outcomes. So if we want to change the world we live in and start making improvements to our lives, we must start by changing our beliefs.

Now, are you ready to open your eyes and the infinite possibilities that support your dreams?

Why It Actually Pays To Be Happy

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Do you ever wonder why positive and upbeat people always gets up the ladder way faster than the rest? Is it the magic of smooching up to someone or is there inherently something special that happen to people who are generally happier? I’m not talking about those who are good at hiding their negative emotions. I’m referring to those people who go through life knowing they experience emotional ups and downs and still manage to stay happy.

Something bad can happen one day and they somehow are able to find their stillness. They carry a certain quality of calmness that makes tough situations seem less stressful.

Does this remind you of a certain someone in your circle, or maybe at work? Maybe there’s a teeny-tiny-bit of discomfort that you just can’t seem to “vibing” at their level… what is their secret?

I am talking about the people who are truly, genuinely, and authentically radiating happiness from the inside and on every single level. You can’t help but admit that it’s a little irritating how they just got life figured out for them, and at the same time you’re dying to know where they find their bliss.

They seem to make friends everywhere they go, they are great conversationalists, people tend to fall in love with them and be friends with them within a short amount of time, and they get the best service everywhere they go. It’s no wonder why they seem to enjoy life on a different level. And when they have bad times, they’re the first ones to get support pouring in and people rushing to help from every corner.

What do they have that I don’t?

I was in that position a few years back — I worked at a global advertising firm as an intern. I assumed all the interns were treated the same. We were all hand picked from reputable universities and have high GPAs. But reality soon hit me that it was not the case, and that work place does favor those who are happier.

Maybe “happy” is too broad to describe this fellow junior colleague of mine. She was smart, articulate, energetic, intellectual and hardworking… to be fair, I think I lived up to the same descriptions too, or at least I thought so. The only difference was, she seemed popular and that made me jealous.

You see, trying to portraying yourself as happy and being authentically happy are completely different things. Watching her thrive, I learnt to adapt my behavior to prove myself. I became a little friendlier, added a little humor, started small talk a little more, and also rushed to offer my help to other colleagues at every opportunity. But all of this “effort” was coming from a place in my heart known as jealousy.

Ironically, the harder I tried, the more popular she became. It seemed like my energy was pushing people away and I felt it even added to her likability. She started receiving bigger responsibilities and soon was promoted before I even heard about the opportunity. People wanted to hang around her, and naturally her growth skyrocketed along with her confidence.

Fast forward a couple of years, she is raised to managerial level and has been transferred to multiple other offices for exchange. To say that her career has been “smooth sailing” is an understatement. After seeing one of her new Linkedin updates a small voice entered my head. It was a sudden realisation after having compared myself to her success for so many years — I realised that I had not done my fair share of self-development. And in order for life to give you a reward, you first need to invest in embodying the qualities of a person who is likely to receive it. This realisation opened up my mind to a whole new perspective.

Get your glow on

To me, that means bringing your best energy to work and life every single day. It means not giving in to the power of negativity when things go wrong. It means assuming other people mean well and have the best intentions. It means turning your challenges into creativity energy. It means taking your ideas to the next level because you are inspired.

We all want to increase material wealth or climb the ladder of success in some form. Instead of focusing on the outcome, we must first lay the groundwork which makes up 99% of the effort. This is the internal part, or I’d like to call “behind the scenes” where nobody sees, before everything manifests itself as a result.

So if you want to achieve sustainable growth in your income and happiness, start by bringing the attention back to self care. When you are willing to work out the difficult parts internally, you are able to remove all distraction that affects your attention and intention. Only then can you develop laser focus and bring yourself to operate at the highest level. 

In the place of genuine happiness, that’s where you can radiate an infinite beam to shine light up those around you. That is where true wealth begins.