success

Why It Actually Pays To Be Happy

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Do you ever wonder why positive and upbeat people always gets up the ladder way faster than the rest? Is it the magic of smooching up to someone or is there inherently something special that happen to people who are generally happier? I’m not talking about those who are good at hiding their negative emotions. I’m referring to those people who go through life knowing they experience emotional ups and downs and still manage to stay happy.

Something bad can happen one day and they somehow are able to find their stillness. They carry a certain quality of calmness that makes tough situations seem less stressful.

Does this remind you of a certain someone in your circle, or maybe at work? Maybe there’s a teeny-tiny-bit of discomfort that you just can’t seem to “vibing” at their level… what is their secret?

I am talking about the people who are truly, genuinely, and authentically radiating happiness from the inside and on every single level. You can’t help but admit that it’s a little irritating how they just got life figured out for them, and at the same time you’re dying to know where they find their bliss.

They seem to make friends everywhere they go, they are great conversationalists, people tend to fall in love with them and be friends with them within a short amount of time, and they get the best service everywhere they go. It’s no wonder why they seem to enjoy life on a different level. And when they have bad times, they’re the first ones to get support pouring in and people rushing to help from every corner.

What do they have that I don’t?

I was in that position a few years back — I worked at a global advertising firm as an intern. I assumed all the interns were treated the same. We were all hand picked from reputable universities and have high GPAs. But reality soon hit me that it was not the case, and that work place does favor those who are happier.

Maybe “happy” is too broad to describe this fellow junior colleague of mine. She was smart, articulate, energetic, intellectual and hardworking… to be fair, I think I lived up to the same descriptions too, or at least I thought so. The only difference was, she seemed popular and that made me jealous.

You see, trying to portraying yourself as happy and being authentically happy are completely different things. Watching her thrive, I learnt to adapt my behavior to prove myself. I became a little friendlier, added a little humor, started small talk a little more, and also rushed to offer my help to other colleagues at every opportunity. But all of this “effort” was coming from a place in my heart known as jealousy.

Ironically, the harder I tried, the more popular she became. It seemed like my energy was pushing people away and I felt it even added to her likability. She started receiving bigger responsibilities and soon was promoted before I even heard about the opportunity. People wanted to hang around her, and naturally her growth skyrocketed along with her confidence.

Fast forward a couple of years, she is raised to managerial level and has been transferred to multiple other offices for exchange. To say that her career has been “smooth sailing” is an understatement. After seeing one of her new Linkedin updates a small voice entered my head. It was a sudden realisation after having compared myself to her success for so many years — I realised that I had not done my fair share of self-development. And in order for life to give you a reward, you first need to invest in embodying the qualities of a person who is likely to receive it. This realisation opened up my mind to a whole new perspective.

Get your glow on

To me, that means bringing your best energy to work and life every single day. It means not giving in to the power of negativity when things go wrong. It means assuming other people mean well and have the best intentions. It means turning your challenges into creativity energy. It means taking your ideas to the next level because you are inspired.

We all want to increase material wealth or climb the ladder of success in some form. Instead of focusing on the outcome, we must first lay the groundwork which makes up 99% of the effort. This is the internal part, or I’d like to call “behind the scenes” where nobody sees, before everything manifests itself as a result.

So if you want to achieve sustainable growth in your income and happiness, start by bringing the attention back to self care. When you are willing to work out the difficult parts internally, you are able to remove all distraction that affects your attention and intention. Only then can you develop laser focus and bring yourself to operate at the highest level. 

In the place of genuine happiness, that’s where you can radiate an infinite beam to shine light up those around you. That is where true wealth begins.

Surrender Yourself To Consistency

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When I said the word “consistency”, you probably cringed a little bit inside... The conscious part of your mind knows that you need to “accept” consistency as the elemental part of your success in business and life, but there’s an unspoken uneasiness about the word when it’s brought to your attention. That’s most likely your subconscious mind fighting it out of your head because “consistency” is trying to beat you into shape.


This was my relationship with Consistency before I truly learnt to respect and honour it.


You may be in the same place I was – three years ago, when I chased after every podcast, every self help video, every life guru on Youtube. I subscribed myself to an embarrassing amount of self-improvement and success related channels out there (I can’t even count!). Looking back, I suspect maybe I was drawn to that kind of energy, as if hashtag grit, hashtag daily grind, and hashtag hustle was the only way to go to achieve true consistency.


I wish someone had told me that was wrong, that “hard work” was the wrong hero I was looking for, that there was an easier and more graceful way that leads the path to success no one ever talks about.


My breakthrough happened when I least expected it – and my hope is for you to experience the same epiphany too. Here’s what I realised: How you experience consistency is entirely your choice, it all comes down to what you associate “being consistent” with.


Let me show you the two sides to the same coin. People who tell you that “grit” is the answer, primarily brings your attention to the lack of achievement, which is a self-punishing mentality that leads you to constantly believe that you’re just “not there yet”, and keeps you in a place of dissatisfaction. The flip side to this belief are people who live in the moment and truly savour the process of micro-level growth. They view every step of the progress as an opportunity to celebrate, and associate the experience with an overall warm, fuzzy feeling. Now, when your body is buzzed with all these good feelings, it would be hard not to become addicted to the process. This is where true consistency is born.


Hard work means work that is hard, work that doesn’t come naturally or easily, and work that you need to grind through because you’re not coming from an inspired position to produce it. But does that mean we don’t do the work when we don’t feel like it?


Well, that’s not entirely the case.


So what would consistency without hard work look like? This question bring an entirely new meaning to your work. Instead of focusing on the outcome, you get to focus on the process – and enjoy the experience of gathering all your power to being inspired, motivated, and feeling the next level energy that makes “consistency” easy. When I was in this state, I generated a new sense of curiosity and wonder in my work.


This is why I decided to disengage with the grind. Here’s a personal example. I’ve had my fair share of struggle posting on social media regularly. The idea of being “chained” to my phone was never appealing. However, I see the value of being visible online so that people could reach out to me for my coaching services. So I’ve tried committing myself to posting on social media for 10-15 minutes a day, coming from a place where I loathed the work but knew it just needed to be done. After this process failed me miserably, I then experimented doing the exact same task carrying the opposite attitude – allowing myself to celebrate every post I made, and sharing every message from the heart. Can you guess which one got me the best results?


For the sake of this article, I’d like to see how this all fits in with your life. Tell me, how do you see yourself surrendering into consistency in your work or daily life, and how will that affect the quality of your experience in achieving your goal?