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How you can think your way to wealth

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“It isn’t possible.” This is what your mind wants you to believe. Did you notice you were curious enough to click on the title but as soon as you begin to read you are wondering what’s the catch behind it?


I fully and wholeheartedly believe that you absolutely can. I believe you can think your way to your biggest success (or most embarrassing failure for that matter) because every single person on this planet has the gift to reach their highest potential when they realise their purpose – no matter your limitations, differences and hurdles. And in this context, I am talking about wealth being a result when a person discovers and follows their purpose.


When our setbacks becomes our assets

What about our challenges that shape our career and the success in life? Why do some people achieve greatness at so much ease after life’s biggest hardships? What about the stories of those people who have just a few dollars left in their pockets to survive the week, that give them the edge to out of externally imposed limitations?


There’s something innately so revolutionary about what those challenges do to our minds. It trains our minds to think faster, quicker, and more creatively to come up with the solutions to keep ourselves alive. But success does not come to those for every person who go through hardships.


It’s for the people who learn from them and want it badly enough to break out of the patterns. It’s for the people who know their struggle story and wear it on their sleeve like the scars of war. Those are the ones that realise the value of their stories and are able to use their humbling experiences as their advantage.


It comes to a point where they have to make a decision – whether if they want to continue to be a victim of their fate, or turn their challenges into their gifts, that brings them to a pivotal moment that leaves their suffering behind. How are you embracing your challenges and turning that into your own hero story?


A little mindfulness goes a long way

You’ve probably heard of this quote way too many times on social media posts... “work smarter, not harder” (because I have). There is truth to that statement, but people don’t tell you what exactly working smarter means. Certainly no one tries to less any less smart. So I’m not sure if I really need someone to tell me to work smarter because I’m already working the smartest I possibly can. I believe the same applies to you too.


Before we rush off to check off more tasks and catch up on our long list of unfinished work, let’s just take a quick moment to slow down and re-focus. It sounds counterintuitive, I know. Our calendars are packed from the minute we wake up to the moment our head hits the pillow at night, that we don’t give ourselves time to think about how we are spending our time.


If you find yourself constantly devouring and processing information every minute of the day, or having lunch at your desk while checking emails… (yep, I was guilty of that) I hope you can take just a few minutes to breathe, and think about how your work now contributes to your purpose.


Bring your attention back to the present moment and your current position; do your actions intentionally aligned with the purpose of meeting your end goal?


Do your actions need to be adjusted, or does your mind need a reset to see your current position with fresh eyes?


More importantly – what personal lessons can you learn in every step of the way, and what is the one thing that’s holding you back to unlocking your next level?


This mindfulness exercise is so refreshing for the mind as it allows you to refocus your energy every day, and allows you to listen to your mind for new ideas and insights you would not have noticed otherwise.


How do you know this is the right way to go?

No one in the world can tell you which path to take. You will come across many detours and a thousand moments of “things didn’t work out”, before you reach a pivotal point that skyrockets your life. This is where your inner voice comes into play.


To achieve greater wealth in life, you must develop an unshakable faith in your intuition and carry the burning desire to seek out possibilities in every situation, especially when it means you are called to step out of your comfort zone.


You must absolutely believe that your odds, limitations and hurdles are what give you an inspiring story to tell like no other, and have the unfair advantage to achieve the level of greatness you’re designed for.


Why It Actually Pays To Be Happy

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Do you ever wonder why positive and upbeat people always gets up the ladder way faster than the rest? Is it the magic of smooching up to someone or is there inherently something special that happen to people who are generally happier? I’m not talking about those who are good at hiding their negative emotions. I’m referring to those people who go through life knowing they experience emotional ups and downs and still manage to stay happy.

Something bad can happen one day and they somehow are able to find their stillness. They carry a certain quality of calmness that makes tough situations seem less stressful.

Does this remind you of a certain someone in your circle, or maybe at work? Maybe there’s a teeny-tiny-bit of discomfort that you just can’t seem to “vibing” at their level… what is their secret?

I am talking about the people who are truly, genuinely, and authentically radiating happiness from the inside and on every single level. You can’t help but admit that it’s a little irritating how they just got life figured out for them, and at the same time you’re dying to know where they find their bliss.

They seem to make friends everywhere they go, they are great conversationalists, people tend to fall in love with them and be friends with them within a short amount of time, and they get the best service everywhere they go. It’s no wonder why they seem to enjoy life on a different level. And when they have bad times, they’re the first ones to get support pouring in and people rushing to help from every corner.

What do they have that I don’t?

I was in that position a few years back — I worked at a global advertising firm as an intern. I assumed all the interns were treated the same. We were all hand picked from reputable universities and have high GPAs. But reality soon hit me that it was not the case, and that work place does favor those who are happier.

Maybe “happy” is too broad to describe this fellow junior colleague of mine. She was smart, articulate, energetic, intellectual and hardworking… to be fair, I think I lived up to the same descriptions too, or at least I thought so. The only difference was, she seemed popular and that made me jealous.

You see, trying to portraying yourself as happy and being authentically happy are completely different things. Watching her thrive, I learnt to adapt my behavior to prove myself. I became a little friendlier, added a little humor, started small talk a little more, and also rushed to offer my help to other colleagues at every opportunity. But all of this “effort” was coming from a place in my heart known as jealousy.

Ironically, the harder I tried, the more popular she became. It seemed like my energy was pushing people away and I felt it even added to her likability. She started receiving bigger responsibilities and soon was promoted before I even heard about the opportunity. People wanted to hang around her, and naturally her growth skyrocketed along with her confidence.

Fast forward a couple of years, she is raised to managerial level and has been transferred to multiple other offices for exchange. To say that her career has been “smooth sailing” is an understatement. After seeing one of her new Linkedin updates a small voice entered my head. It was a sudden realisation after having compared myself to her success for so many years — I realised that I had not done my fair share of self-development. And in order for life to give you a reward, you first need to invest in embodying the qualities of a person who is likely to receive it. This realisation opened up my mind to a whole new perspective.

Get your glow on

To me, that means bringing your best energy to work and life every single day. It means not giving in to the power of negativity when things go wrong. It means assuming other people mean well and have the best intentions. It means turning your challenges into creativity energy. It means taking your ideas to the next level because you are inspired.

We all want to increase material wealth or climb the ladder of success in some form. Instead of focusing on the outcome, we must first lay the groundwork which makes up 99% of the effort. This is the internal part, or I’d like to call “behind the scenes” where nobody sees, before everything manifests itself as a result.

So if you want to achieve sustainable growth in your income and happiness, start by bringing the attention back to self care. When you are willing to work out the difficult parts internally, you are able to remove all distraction that affects your attention and intention. Only then can you develop laser focus and bring yourself to operate at the highest level. 

In the place of genuine happiness, that’s where you can radiate an infinite beam to shine light up those around you. That is where true wealth begins.

Breaking Up With Guilt Around Money

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Have you ever questioned yourself if pursuing more wealth and money is the "noble" thing to do? Are you afraid of being accused of "greed" when you chose the option makes you more money? Have you been told that you “don't deserve it". Have you held back from celebrating your own success because you thought it might make your family feel bad, because they did not manage to reach those achievements themselves?


Who are we kidding? Is it not right to take care of ourselves? Is it not right to make sure we can afford a roof over our heads and have food on the table? Better yet, isn’t it a great thing to be able to take care of others from the wealth that we create? To spread love, help others, or contribute to causes that we support? Unfortunately, not everyone seems to agree. You may be experiencing guilt from the hardwired internal dialogue, or punishing yourself for feeling great because you know the rest of your family hadn’t done so well in the past.


I know the word "guilt" used here is a powerful word, and I’m not trying to make things look pretty. Because we’ve brushed it under the carpet with our best efforts to not deal with it, only for it to accumulate that manifests in more money problems and heartbreak in the end. It’s an emotion that we experience deeply even though some of us don't even realise or acknowledge the presence of that feeling. It’s the moment that doesn’t feel right knowing you have to give up something you truly value to pursue an opportunity that pays better. Or it’s that discomfort about receiving more money because you believe you deserve less. Well, let’s talk about it.

A lot of us are stuck in this dilemma. On one hand we want to get more money out of our time – so that we can achieve our financial goals faster. On the other hand our mind interrogates ourselves asking us if we really deserve to achieve financial wealth on a higher level. This common scenario shows how our subconsciousness plays a big part in talking ourselves out of achieving true bliss, alignment, and happiness when it comes to making more money. It's so powerful that sometimes we manage to find reasons to get out of the opportunity that gives us more monetary reward.

To understand why this happens and untangle these feelings, we need to look into the self-talk that takes place when guilt kicks in. It comes up in many ways. They most commonly show up as dialogues like:

"I grew up in a family where we've always struggled with money, and now I feel ashamed to share my accomplishments with them"

"I feel like I'm not giving enough value to receive this much in return" or,

"I don't have the qualifications to be charging or being paid this much" or,

"Making this level of income means I might miss out important milestone moments of seeing my baby grow up"


Scripts like these will keep replaying in your head in the background. We all do a good job putting away our emotions in the day. We'll roll it into a ball and stuff it into our pockets. But the moment you quiet down these familiar voices make their way back into your head again, and they remind you that they're here to stay. They disguise themselves as being our "truths".


So you've allowed the guilt sit around for longer than you wished and it's finally time to call them out because it's not leading you anywhere. The best way and only way is to be at peace with your feelings and your inner self talk. In the beginning they were here to remind you to live with integrity and be the best possible version of yourself. They have served their purpose, and it's time to channel guilt into purposeful, useful energy. 


Know that there are many ways to be in touch with your emotions and receive a lot of money without feeling guilty. Know that you can associate your work to feelings of pride, passion and satisfaction. Know that the influence and impact you bring onto the world deserves much more credit than you allow yourself to receive. 


Know that by breaking up with guilt, you're releasing yourself from your limitations and false beliefs, so that you can finally enjoy the bliss of having abundance that's been waiting for you.

4 Self-loving steps you can take to master your subconsciousness when you don’t have money

If you’re reading this post, chances are, you’ve experienced that chatter like a broken tape in your own head for a while now, and to say that it’s bothersome and discouraging is just an absolute understatement. You want to “mute” it altogether. I totally understand, because I’ve spent so much time trying to “make it go away”, or like some people say, “just practice positive thinking”, or “just keeping working hard”, but I wish it was as simple as that.

It’s important to acknowledge that most of the time, we experience our internal struggles 1000 folds more than our external circumstances. The issue of not having money is super urgent to most people and that makes us more desperate to scramble for any quick solutions we can find.

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We experience our internal struggles 1000 folds more than our external circumstances

In times of stress, it’s natural to have an urge to fight these chatters out of our heads, but also understand they exist in our minds as a means of protective mechanism – so that our adrenaline keeps us from making mistakes in our next steps. But sometimes, our self-doubt and insecurities takeover and blind us from great opportunities that are just underneath our noses.

So I want to share with you my 4 easy and actionable steps to walk you through your difficult times. There is always a silver lining at the end of the tunnel.

 

STEP 1: Identify those factors that bring negative thoughts to your head

What is the “prompt” – such as an item, an action, a person, a negative influence, or something happening? Find out what is the one thing that pushes your buttons to unleash these uncontrolled negative self-talk? Learn how to look out for an anticipate dealing with these emotions next time so they don’t catch you off guard.

 

STEP 2: Write in a journal about your current emotions on your money struggle

Don’t be afraid to get 100% real with yourself to have this dialogue about your struggle, about your obstacles, and what you experience when caught between all these feelings. When you’re finished, underline words with negative sentiment, or odd sentences that stand out to you. Study your words. And make note of any underlying subconscious thoughts because they’re the ones we really want to get familiar with. Now it’s time to dive deeper and ask to yourself, why you are having those specific feelings? Such as – what exactly did I mean by “getting too much”, or, how much is “not having much to live with”. Problems always seem overbearing until we put them onto paper and break them down into small, manageable parts. Be very specific

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Write them down even if they are super small tasks, taking any action gives you momentum, and momentum gives you power

STEP 3: Turning struggle into meaningful action

So this step is very important. Convert those struggles from STEP 2 into specific actionable items, coming up with at least 2-5 immediate solutions on what you’re going to do about it and give yourself a manageable timeline. Write them down even if they are super small tasks, taking any action gives you momentum, and momentum gives you power. By listing out your solutions, you are reclaiming your control of the situation. Believe me – the more solutions you write, the ideas will trickle in. You can set them as “tasks” – the best way to keep yourself accountable is to make sure you put them in your calendar, so you can plan and anticipate your tasks coming up (this will free up your mind space) Actions only take place when you follow through!
 

STEP 4: Send yourself positive reminders with your phone wallpaper (this works super well)

We all look at our phones about 40-60 times each day on average (shocking, I know!). So make the best use of our time and valuable attention by sending a powerful message to ourselves each time we get a chance to look at it.

This is by far… my absolute favorite part. Head over to Pinterest and find yourself an uplifting affirmation quote that meets your soul’s needs, I mean, one that you can 100% resonate with. Chances are – if you see it enough times, your mind will believe it. Find a quote or positive message that directly addresses your internal struggle. The science behind motivational quotes and why they work (and I’m not just talking about some mumbo-jumbo self made up fact), is because it becomes a self coaching element as we read it. We start to build associations from the message with our own situations. By reading positive quotes, you are building on the confidence and opening up a healthy dialogue with your inner self.

 

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Acknowledge it, make peace with it, and replace it with something positive that is much more solid and powerful

So remember, the only way to remove negative self talk is if you acknowledge it, make peace with it, and replace it with something positive that is much more solid and powerful. This will only work with you do every step with intention. Of course, this does not take the hard work away (sorry if that’s what you’re here for!), you’ll still have to give 200% effort and ownership. But it does give you new eyes to see things in a fresh perspective so that you can mentally rise above your situation and come up with aligned and effective solutions with ease.