If you’re reading this post, chances are, you’ve experienced that chatter like a broken tape in your own head for a while now, and to say that it’s bothersome and discouraging is just an absolute understatement. You want to “mute” it altogether. I totally understand, because I’ve spent so much time trying to “make it go away”, or like some people say, “just practice positive thinking”, or “just keeping working hard”, but I wish it was as simple as that.
It’s important to acknowledge that most of the time, we experience our internal struggles 1000 folds more than our external circumstances. The issue of not having money is super urgent to most people and that makes us more desperate to scramble for any quick solutions we can find.
We experience our internal struggles 1000 folds more than our external circumstances
In times of stress, it’s natural to have an urge to fight these chatters out of our heads, but also understand they exist in our minds as a means of protective mechanism – so that our adrenaline keeps us from making mistakes in our next steps. But sometimes, our self-doubt and insecurities takeover and blind us from great opportunities that are just underneath our noses.
So I want to share with you my 4 easy and actionable steps to walk you through your difficult times. There is always a silver lining at the end of the tunnel.
STEP 1: Identify those factors that bring negative thoughts to your head
What is the “prompt” – such as an item, an action, a person, a negative influence, or something happening? Find out what is the one thing that pushes your buttons to unleash these uncontrolled negative self-talk? Learn how to look out for an anticipate dealing with these emotions next time so they don’t catch you off guard.
STEP 2: Write in a journal about your current emotions on your money struggle
Don’t be afraid to get 100% real with yourself to have this dialogue about your struggle, about your obstacles, and what you experience when caught between all these feelings. When you’re finished, underline words with negative sentiment, or odd sentences that stand out to you. Study your words. And make note of any underlying subconscious thoughts because they’re the ones we really want to get familiar with. Now it’s time to dive deeper and ask to yourself, why you are having those specific feelings? Such as – what exactly did I mean by “getting too much”, or, how much is “not having much to live with”. Problems always seem overbearing until we put them onto paper and break them down into small, manageable parts. Be very specific
Write them down even if they are super small tasks, taking any action gives you momentum, and momentum gives you power
STEP 3: Turning struggle into meaningful action
So this step is very important. Convert those struggles from STEP 2 into specific actionable items, coming up with at least 2-5 immediate solutions on what you’re going to do about it and give yourself a manageable timeline. Write them down even if they are super small tasks, taking any action gives you momentum, and momentum gives you power. By listing out your solutions, you are reclaiming your control of the situation. Believe me – the more solutions you write, the ideas will trickle in. You can set them as “tasks” – the best way to keep yourself accountable is to make sure you put them in your calendar, so you can plan and anticipate your tasks coming up (this will free up your mind space) Actions only take place when you follow through!
STEP 4: Send yourself positive reminders with your phone wallpaper (this works super well)
We all look at our phones about 40-60 times each day on average (shocking, I know!). So make the best use of our time and valuable attention by sending a powerful message to ourselves each time we get a chance to look at it.
This is by far… my absolute favorite part. Head over to Pinterest and find yourself an uplifting affirmation quote that meets your soul’s needs, I mean, one that you can 100% resonate with. Chances are – if you see it enough times, your mind will believe it. Find a quote or positive message that directly addresses your internal struggle. The science behind motivational quotes and why they work (and I’m not just talking about some mumbo-jumbo self made up fact), is because it becomes a self coaching element as we read it. We start to build associations from the message with our own situations. By reading positive quotes, you are building on the confidence and opening up a healthy dialogue with your inner self.
Acknowledge it, make peace with it, and replace it with something positive that is much more solid and powerful
So remember, the only way to remove negative self talk is if you acknowledge it, make peace with it, and replace it with something positive that is much more solid and powerful. This will only work with you do every step with intention. Of course, this does not take the hard work away (sorry if that’s what you’re here for!), you’ll still have to give 200% effort and ownership. But it does give you new eyes to see things in a fresh perspective so that you can mentally rise above your situation and come up with aligned and effective solutions with ease.